Quote from: sultanbev on 23 December 2021, 09:24:59 AMJust do it by paper. I do my tax return using paper form, takes 5 minutes. Once tried online for a customer, took over 40 minutes! Never again! You should be able to download the relevant forms from their website and print them off.

Thanks Mark

All sorted in the end - ahead of the deadline(s). But whether it is right or wrong is anybody's guess - we'll see 

My Ma is at Peace now. Went in sleep sometime Wednesday night. Thankfully, not virus... she still had not had Booster or Flu jabs. Cousin and Wife rushed through and started the phone calls... cannot Thank enough. I was in shock. Very nice Cop, Nurse and Funeral Staff.

One Nightmare over. Ma had Dementia, no 'mobility' and Urine Incontinence. At Rest, now after Three Years.
Myself... will have all the Financial, Legal and Funeral stuff to go through... and little idea of how.
At least have enough in Bank to get by with for some months, but will have to find another job to run house... another 8 years until State Pension. Ma's pensions and Allowance paid the bills.
But... everyone gets this someday... just My turn.

Sorry to hear your loss HH, but as you say, at least she is at peace now. My Mum was in a similar position with dementia in a care home, but when she passed away, it felt a relief that she was no longer suffering.

I hope you get all the stuff sorted out OK. We used a service that, for a relatively small fee, contacted the banks, pensions, local council etc and informed them of her passing, which made life much easier for me Dad. I can't remember if it was via the Births, Deaths & Marriages people, but I think it was.

Condolences to you HH. Peaceful way to go and at least she is no longer suffering.

Hope you manage to sort out all the legal and formal stuff. Its tricky at the best of times dealing with these people , even worse when your grieving. So Steves suggestion is probably a good one.

 

Sorry to hear that too, I hope you're doing as well as you can.

Sorry to hear of your loss, but as you say she is at peace

Good luck with all the legal stuff, take some time for you as well

Good to hear you have some help from cousin & wife, let them help as much as they can

Thanks, Guys.

Sympathies, HH.

My condolences HH

QuoteLooks like a root and branch overhaul is needed.

There we go, not much in it.  Honours even.

My condolences, HH. Dementia is a horrible condition. Best wishes.

It's been a while, what with moving country, learning a new language, a pandemic, several lockdowns (including the current one) and then organising everything at this end. Apart from everything else, I lost my BBB books (now replaced), then had to find my way round Groups Io, set up a painting area and now at last organising my hobby room properly. My 10mm plans will actually not require much of a spend as I have brought quite a bit of unpainted lead with me. Consequently I am looking at the smaller actions of the 1866 campaigns in Bohemia and Germany (thanks to the BBB groups io files and Neil Thomas' C19th wargames), more SYW action and units, the 1848 Schelswig Holstein project and the great sweep south by the Picts in post-Roman Britain. In short I've been a bit too busy to really notice the pandemic - only leaving the house for Fristi and Paprika Chips.

So sorry to hear that HH. As others have said, look after yourself.

My own Mum died on the last day of October, just over a month after we finally settled Dad's estate after three years of lawyers, bankers, national and local government officers!

Both of them were bed bound, had dementia and Alzheimer's and Mum also had cancer. So neither death was exactly unexpected but it's still a shock when it happens.

One thing my sister and I found helpful was that the local council do a "one stop shop" service where you notify the council (bit of paperwork and a phone call in these Covid infected days) and they then contact all of the council departments so you don't get letters demanding the dearly departed fill out forms, pay bills or turn up for meetings.

Condolences HH.

I lost both of mine half a lifetime ago, you do get through it but they are frequently in my thoughts.

All th best.

Paul

Quote from: T13A on 07 January 2022, 10:43:06 AMI lost both of mine half a lifetime ago, you do get through it but they are frequently in my thoughts.

Very true, its been 11 years since I lost mine but when I see a Fudge shop on holiday I  still think "I must get Dad some fudge" as he loved the stuff.