Coming out of the closet?

[FierceKitty]

1. Were you a wargamer before you met your significant other?

2. How did she find out about your addiction?

3. What is your significant other's attitude towards your addiction?

4. Does she mention it to her friends or dress your addiction up as something else?

I was a gamer before my wife was walking on her hind legs. I told her from the start about my little addiction. She is generally supportive, but sometimes gets the sulks when she loses, mainly because she won't read the rules. As for her friends - they expect deranged behaviour from a paleface anyway, so she probably just laughs about it with them.

[d_Guy]

Kitty, I am always off-the-chart impressed that your good lady actually plays!
That would make a good fifth question - does your Significant Other play wargames? For me - in a nutshell - no.

[FierceKitty]

Get her to try, and make sure she wins the first few times....

[pierre the shy]

My father served in the RN and one of my grandfathers was in the RA as a officer for 40 years (he retired as a Brigadier) so I think I picked up my interest in wargaming through them.

1. Were you a wargamer before you met your significant other?

yes -  for about 20 years before I met my other half (1975 - 1995)

2. How did she find out about your addiction?

Shortly after we met we traveled up to Auckland together by car - its an 8 hour drive so we found out all about each others lives  

3. What is your significant others attitude towards your addiction?

She very understanding about gaming, though not really that interested herself (she did try a couple of games long ago).

4. Does she mention it to her friends or dress your addiction up as something else

Mrs Shy enjoys telling them I like playing with my toys - but she doesn't dress it up. They are pretty understanding as one of them  co-owns one of the last brick and mortar model shops in Wellington,
so they have more "understanidng" about the hobby than most  

[SerialLoser]

1. Were you a wargames before you met your significant other?
for about 16 years before I met her

2. How did she find out about your addiction?
believe it or not, it came up in an early conversation. We both studied history at university (I did Archaeology, she did Art), and during some discussion or other came the phrase "oh, and I collect and play with these..............." and she didn't run away.

3. What is your significant others attitude towards your addiction?
Good natured toleration. She has started me in new periods, she's from Chile and took great pains to explain the wars of Independence from Spain to me, hence my growing armies for the period. She shows some interest at new acquisitions, and a reasonable amount of interest in the painting when we do go to a show. in return I fake interest in spinning wheels and weaving looms.

4. Does she mention it to her friends or dress your addiction up as something else
She takes every opportunity to tell her friends that I sit in a room and "play with my privates". Still, keeps her happy.

[DanJ]

Is a hoby a bit like a hobo - a bit of a cardboard box, where two corners of the lid have split and the contents, though intact, are in a right mess? Or did you mean hobby?

You raise an interesting point Sir, in reply I'd point out that:

1) A hobo is a homeless itinerant worker, not any sort of cardboard box, with or without corners.

2) The word hoby is derived from 'Old Hob' a euphemism for the Devil, by derivation and association 'a hoby' is any pastime which is Devilishly good fun.   

3) The occasional deliberate error in spelling, grammar, the apostrophe and semi colon keeps FK on his toes. 

3) Korrect spulling uz sew list centuarrie 

[Leman]

All clear now 

[Genom]

1. Were you a wargamer before you met your significant other?
Yep, I've been playing since school, (Heroquest was the kickstart)

2. How did she find out about your addiction?
We met through the Roleplaying club at Uni.

3. What is your significant others attitude towards your addiction?
She doesn't care, it's not the first time I've gone to a show and spent more on models/boardgames for her than I have models for my self.  She's a crafter so there is a lot of yarn, spinning wheel, etc in the house and as others have said, she knows where I am and what I'm up to. She even helps out when the club are doing public display games (non wargame shows)

4. Does she mention it to her friends or dress your addiction up as something else
I'm off playing with my wee men, or wee wee men if it's 10mm.

She does play herself, but prefers fantasy to historical or scifi. She has a Skaven force for Mordheim, Tombking army for Warhammer and a 10mm Arabian army alongside various other small skirmish things. Reapers Mouslings for example.  But it's mostly Boardgames that she prefers.

[DanJ]

does your Significant Other play wargames?

Games yes  , wargames no but she does like some board games, for instance 'The Witches' because it doesn't involve 'killing things' 

[Orcs]

My wife's Ex Husband a war gamer walked out and left her and her 4 sons 3 days before I left the army the rest is history 22years this year!

Did he leave all his wargames stuff behind as well?  That really would have been WIN WIN   

I inherited The following

Mrs Orcs
A  Fast Sporty Peugeot 307 (Fun to drive When it worked)
A Nice stepdaughter
A Lazy stepdaughter ( chartity shop keeps refusing her as a donation )
set of golf clubs (charity shop took these though )
Some nice military books

[FierceKitty]

On an historic note, we're "riding our hobby-horse" (in American, a stick horse).
See Tristram Shandy, where Uncle Toby is our patron saint as, invalided back to England after a wound at Namur, he fights Marlborough's sieges on a commandeered bowling green.

[FierceKitty]

Damned if I know why the thing's put half the above paragraph into italics, but I seem unable to rectify it.

[Ithoriel]

On an historic note, we're "riding our hobby-horse" (in American, a stick horse).
See Tristram Shandy, where Uncle Toby is our patron saint as, invalided back to England after a wound at Namur, he fights Marlborough's sieges on a commandeered bowling green.

You had missed the back-slash in the tag after "stick horse"

[FierceKitty]

Sounds like a fancy cavalry sabre-stroke.

Yes, that is how one spells "sabre" in reality.

[Techno]

I'd always thought that 'sabre' was the correct spelling....

Who spells it 'saber' ? (I presume)

Cheers - Phil

[Ithoriel]

"Sash & Saber Miniatures - Old Glory UK" - for one

[FierceKitty]

Jedis, old Confederates, other strange beings on the fringe of unreality.

[fsn]

"Saber" - more sabie.

[d_Guy]

Yes, that is how one spells "sabre" in reality.

A rather subjective reality actually.  . I have always used sabre, however, just as I use colour.

[Subedai]

A rather subjective reality actually.  . I have always used sabre, however, just as I use colour.

Aha! Admit it, you are really a closet Anglophile but you disguise it well for the sake of appearance.  (I bet you say sidewalk just to fit in though.)  

MickS