Let me kick off by saying that my wife likes my wargaming exploits; she even saves and buys stuff for me and suggests useful details or additions to the scenery I make. :-*
Recently she came along when I went to visit a new wargaming pal. We had a great evening between the three of us. It helps that my pal likes women just as I do. When we entered his home I introduced her to him saying 'This is ---. She is a woman, as you may have spotted. Now women aren't that different from us wargamers, except ...' at which he erupted in homeric laughter because he immediately got the point: not only do most women detest wargaming, but most wargamers aren't - how shall I put this - the most capable womanisers.
Those of you who are lucky enough to share my particular marital circumstance will realise that such women are a God-sent. Nuff said. I don't want to hear from you. I want to hear from the others. Bring me your huddled, your hen-pecked, your game-hungry masses. Let's hear some horror stories about tabletop arms and the women, guys.
You know who you are. :P
Cheers,
Aart
No worries at this end...My wife lets me buy whatever wargaming stuff I want as long as she can buy all the clay and metal clay and beads etc that she wants
all is happy here :D
It's all (vaguely, relatively...) harmonious here: she's got horses, I've got toy soldiers ;)
I just wish she wouldn't keep telling people when they call, "Oh, he's out in the garage - playing with his men"
:o I'm as metrosexual as Becks, but really...!
Quote from: Fenton on 23 March 2010, 12:01:28 AM
My wife lets me buy [snip]
She
lets you buy... Hmm, there's a whiff of impending tragedy there, dear Fenton. I hope it's not too late for you to draw some boundaries and establish who does the letting and who does the buying.
I don't want to come over all macho on this issue, but when it comes to our wargaming rights we have lost quite some ground since the 19th century, fellows. Humanism, pacifism, feminism, PC and Tommy Hilfiger have all made deep inroads. I wonder if lead and tin are going to be declared environmental hazards next, just to spite (or tax) us.
On the other hand I just love a good sob story. "Wargamer relegated to 3' x 4' attic, denied food for weeks". "Enraged wife smashes unique Napoléon miniature". "Scots Regiment found in dustbin".
Cheers,
Aart
We are in the same boat Nik, although I have to tag along to numerous competitions/shows throughout the year and help at various times mucking out etc (quite enjoy it really). However, all I get back is a few nods at a well painted horse. No moans and groans about the amount of time I spend gaming un-like the ex >:(
Adrian
Quote from: Aart Brouwer on 23 March 2010, 08:56:40 AM
Quote from: Fenton on 23 March 2010, 12:01:28 AM
My wife lets me buy [snip]
She lets you buy... Hmm, there's a whiff of impending tragedy there, dear Fenton. I hope it's not too late for you to draw some boundaries and establish who does the letting and who does the buying.
I don't want to come over all macho on this issue, but when it comes to our wargaming rights we have lost quite some ground since the 19th century, fellows. Humanism, pacifism, feminism, PC and Tommy Hilfiger have all made deep inroads. I wonder if lead and tin are going to be declared environmental hazards next, just to spite (or tax) us.
On the other hand I just love a good sob story. "Wargamer relegated to 3' x 4' attic, denied food for weeks". "Enraged wife smashes unique Napoléon miniature". "Scots Regiment found in dustbin".
Cheers,
Aart
Hmmm maybe I worded that wrong ...I
I/b] buy whatever figures I like ( does macho pose but beer belly flops out ) But in the end we both get the stuff we need for our hobbies ( though she actually makes money out of hers)
Quote from: Fenton on 23 March 2010, 08:44:44 PM
Hmmm maybe I worded that wrong ...II/b] buy whatever figures I like ( does macho pose but beer belly flops out ) But in the end we both get the stuff we need for our hobbies ( though she actually makes money out of hers)
You need to start being a bit liberal with the truth I think, along the lines of "I got rid of a load of stuff at the Bring and Buy!", as you sneak past her with a fresh box of goodies...
I'm fairly OK, but everytime I buy stuff/postman brings a package she goes: "are you still buying new stuff? you must have enough by now?" I tend to order once a week, be it figs, books about figs, equipment, boardgames, old RQ paraphernalia, so it's not too bad, but at times it arrives a few days in a row, and then I see her think ...
Still I have my own little hobby room, I get to go out once a week for gaming, I have one play night a week at home, and I get fed. It could be much worse :P
I'm lucky with my wife too. I get to go out about twice a month for games, it used to be more but as the kids are growing up, time is taken up being a taxi driver etc. I can buy what I want for my Birthday, Fathers Day and Xmas with no problem. Bring and Buys can be a bit of a problem as I normally come back with stuff and have given up trying to smuggle stuff into the house. If I order bits and bobs I now get it delivered at work and slowly bring primed models bak to the house, saying "oh I've had that for years" etc.
Quote from: Steve J on 25 March 2010, 07:24:50 PM
If I order bits and bobs I now get it delivered at work and slowly bring primed models bak to the house, saying "oh I've had that for years" etc.
:D :D :D
Quote from: Steve J on 25 March 2010, 07:24:50 PM
I'm lucky with my wife too.[..] If I order bits and bobs I now get it delivered at work and slowly bring primed models bak to the house, saying "oh I've had that for years" etc.
And the gentleman calls himself lucky... We all know where this thread is going, don't we? Sooner or later some poor, downtrodden wargamer is gong to think 'What the heck, she isn't reading in anyway' and spill the beans. All of them. Be prepared for the worst. Because there's always worse. Always.. :o
I am the head of the household.... and I give my wife all my money.
She does wool, I do lead - symbiotic relationship.
We have trhee bank accounts, a central one which both our salaries are paid into and which pays for all the hosehold expenses etc then we each have a "pocket money account". These get topped up from the joint account and what we use them for is our business. I buy lead she buys... um... girly stuff.
I'm even allowed out every Tuesday night to play "toy soldiers", apparently it's better to loose me one night a week than every Saturday afternoon to the footy.
Mind you it did take her 2 years to admit to her parents that I went out and played with toy soldiers on a Tuesday, she used to say I went to a "hostory society" :D
For years my wife thought I played Roomquest every other Sunday. I never found out what she thought we were actually doing. Looking for rooms? Still, since I GM for all the teens in the family, my status and that of RQ has gone up tremendously, since the kids 'learn English and Maths' through playing. So now, when I'm in a tight spot, I say it's 'something new for RuneQuest'
Quote from: DanJ on 26 March 2010, 01:14:18 PM
Mind you it did take her 2 years to admit to her parents that I went out and played with toy soldiers on a Tuesday, she used to say I went to a "hostory society" :D
A 'hostory society'! ;D ;D That sounds intriguing, is it like that place Tom Cruise goes to in 'Eyes Wide Shut'? ;)
Yes - I like this one. My Mrs (being German) has no interest in my 'figures' at all. I too get the 'havent you got enough now?' but generaly I buy what I want -lucky me. And if I talk on the subject "YES! Ive just finished the 24th Foot- its took me 3 weeks" I do get a side glance and a " How very nice for you dear" and she continues to watch CSI Ottawa thinking "What a pleb". Cant winge too much
Eat your hearts out, gentlemen - my dear lassie helped me paint my Cossacks for my Muscovite and Polish armies. Though I had to do a bit of surreptitious touching-up in the parts that beginners always overlook, like undercuts between horses' legs.
Quote from: nikharwood on 23 March 2010, 12:40:39 AM
It's all (vaguely, relatively...) harmonious here: she's got horses, I've got toy soldiers ;)
That is the best solution, horses are really time consuming and expensive thus invalidating any arguments about wargaming time and expense.
I`m one of those lucky dudes.... my misses is as big a role play gamer as me; and sits and watches my wargames sometimes and acts as a guinea pig when needed.
Thankfully she doesn`t collect or paint figures - though she keeps threatening/offering to help me nooooooooooo
hehe
Steve
For myself, I simply inform my dear Wife in due course of when I am going to attend a Wargaming do, and I wouldn't trouble her with any information on what I'd bought, as it is certainly not any of her concern. ;D
I seem to also be one of the lucky ones. My better half(no really, she is better) Drags me to shows like Salute. She can then buy some crazy board game like 'killer rabbits' which I have to then paint!
The living room is covered in wargameing stuff, which is never asked by her to move. Unless it's a cry of "bring your mates over for a game, I'll get some beer for you"
I do have the advantage that we're both re-enactors so a room full of swords, armour and a stack of sten guns to her is normal 8)
Her mum on the other hand... :-X
Dear Rep of Tol, Away man- does her Dad own a brewery and she encourages her twin sister into 3somes as well, cor blimey governor, happy days!!
Sadlly no brewery :(
Also thanks to the economic cock-up no job either :'(
I am starting to suspect that the gist of my OP may have been fundamentally wrong. Not only do we see women increasingly participating in wargames, but it seems most wargamers in this thread - not entirely representative of the breed, of course - have few complaints about the attitude of girls and women of the female persuasion when it comes to our favourite subject.
Still, I wonder if this bodes well for the state of Wargamia. 8)
Cheers,
Aart
Hmmm...my better half has started thumping me at chess since I introduced her to the game. Better keep 'em out of the wargames club, lads. They might turn out to be too good at it for comfort.