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Title: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Orcs on 06 May 2016, 08:48:52 PM
With the "outing" of wargamers abs D'Guy saying he trolls wargamer bars I started to think about having a partner who is also a wargamer.

Having a wife or S/O who is also a wargamer sounds ideal, but is it?

Would you gather twice as big a lead mountain?
They would KNOW how much you were spending.
Would you need two painting tables?
What if you argue about what rules, what scale , what periods.

It could cause more issues than it solves.

Thoughts gentlemen and ladies please.

Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Steve J on 06 May 2016, 09:01:48 PM
Hmmm, I'm glad my wife isn't into wargaming. Trying to agree on things is bad enough, but add in rulesets, armies to collect etc, it simply doesn't bear thinking about!
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Zippee on 06 May 2016, 09:34:00 PM
Well my wife has a huge lead pile of LotR figures that she now claims she won't be able to paint due to the arthritis - so regularly attempts to guilt me into doing them.

And to be fair I have done lots but I'm stalled on the 3 balrogs that I finally assembled and have been staring at me from the shelf above my workstation for probably a year now  :(

So it definitely has its downsides, yes.

On the other hand I don't have to hide purchases or compete for a gaming budget  :D

And I get much better presents as a rule (although I was majorly disappointed with the last one when the big box turned out to contain a leaf blower  :o)
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: PB on 06 May 2016, 10:25:44 PM
I'm happy with my non-wargaming wife who does not complain about my various metal dalliances, just looks bored, smiles, shakes her head and goes back to her jigsaw puzzle. I read that as positive support for my hobby.
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Roy on 07 May 2016, 08:19:05 AM
I'd rather have a partner who played boardgames, and had friends who also played boardgames.
I'd quite happily play boardgames with wife and friends on an evening.
Don't think I'd want another half who played wargames though - unless it was fantasy, or even sci-fi. Both skirmish type games or small battles like Dragon Rampant.
Might even help me to stick and play with only the one period, and get it completed (well, apart from the odd new purchase).

How would one write a lonely hearts advert asking for a woman who liked to play with little men?  :x
;)
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Womble67 on 07 May 2016, 08:22:18 AM
Hi all my wife's not into wargaming as such but will have the odd game with me.

But she does enjoy painting and making scenery. So all in all I'd say I'm a very lucky man

Take care

Andy
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Bodvoc on 07 May 2016, 08:23:37 AM
QuoteI'm happy with my non-wargaming wife who does not complain about my various metal dalliances, just looks bored, smiles, shakes her head and goes back to her jigsaw puzzle. I read that as positive support for my hobby.

Funnily enough my wife will be sat near by doing a jigsaw puzzle whilst I am sat painting my toys. :)
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: FierceKitty on 07 May 2016, 08:23:39 AM
Works for me. More games, another option over weekends, insurance against a no-show by other players, and there's another player for campaigns too.
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: FierceKitty on 07 May 2016, 08:25:38 AM
Is "troll" a malapropism for "trawl" these days?
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Matt J on 07 May 2016, 12:15:18 PM
hectic job, 3 kids and a pug, if I get spare time to spend with my wife wargaming would be right down the list
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: d_Guy on 07 May 2016, 01:34:23 PM
Quote from: FierceKitty on 07 May 2016, 08:25:38 AM
Is "troll" a malapropism for "trawl" these days?
Yes
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Westmarcher on 07 May 2016, 01:59:37 PM
From little egg corns big oak trees grow?

http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2015/06/01/411231029/here-are-100-eggcorns-that-we-say-pass-mustard (http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2015/06/01/411231029/here-are-100-eggcorns-that-we-say-pass-mustard)
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Ithoriel on 07 May 2016, 06:38:32 PM
Quote from: Westmarcher on 07 May 2016, 01:59:37 PM
From little egg corns big oak trees grow?

http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2015/06/01/411231029/here-are-100-eggcorns-that-we-say-pass-mustard (http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2015/06/01/411231029/here-are-100-eggcorns-that-we-say-pass-mustard)

Interesting - not least because some of the examples are themselves wrong.
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Leman on 07 May 2016, 08:46:06 PM
Well that left me flomachsgasted.
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Chris Pringle on 08 May 2016, 08:23:31 AM
"When did you stop beating your wife?"
"When she wouldn't play against me any more."
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: Tawa on 10 May 2016, 04:46:38 PM
"Don't you feel guilty about beating your wife daily"?

"No, she'll just have to write better lists....."

:D
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: zackzeta on 14 May 2016, 07:43:24 AM
i think it would be really cool to have someone with the same interest as you especially the hobby. i dont see a problem, its to be assumed that you guys get along. youll always have someone to game with.
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: JaymisHawk on 18 May 2016, 03:53:52 PM
I think it's great. My misses loves Skyrim so got her into FFG boardgames and working on RPG's next. Took her to PAW 2016 and she really likes the idea of playing Warband (typical Dwarf fangirl).
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: d_Guy on 18 May 2016, 04:02:30 PM
Quote from: JaymisHawk on 18 May 2016, 03:53:52 PM
I think it's great. My misses loves Skyrim so got her into FFG boardgames and working on RPG's next. Took her to PAW 2016 and she really likes the idea of playing Warband (typical Dwarf fangirl).

I think you are lucky (possibly  :) )
In 48 years of marriage my wife has played wargames - twice! I think this is due to happen again sometime in 2035.
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: fred. on 18 May 2016, 04:18:28 PM
My wife hasn't shown any direct interest in playing wargames and isn't that interested in board games - but the children are much more ameanable to gaming. Unfortunately the oldest (who is the keenest) is so busy with home work and sport that she is rarely available.

My wife is very accepting of my gaming seeing it as a good method of relaxation for me. Though the volume of stuff I think might be starting to become an issue.
Title: Re: Having a partner who is also a wargamer - Good or Bad?
Post by: JaymisHawk on 18 May 2016, 04:44:49 PM
Quote from: d_Guy on 18 May 2016, 04:02:30 PM
I think you are lucky (possibly  :) )
In 48 years of marriage my wife has played wargames - twice! I think this is due to happen again sometime in 2035.

I think I am lucky  :) If I can't get to the local club or my mates are busy etc then I have a competent if competitive companion.